1. Ianrowcliffe on May 15, 2013 at 9:07 am

    Yes, an excellent read. The well expressed need of ‘breaking the spell’ hits home, especially in relation to ‘the Sociopath’s Advantage.’

  2. Ian Rowcliffe on December 4, 2011 at 10:59 am

    Actually, the conversation really took on a life of its own because of the difficulties prompting you and others to keep it moving along with an upbeat posture:-)

  3. Erin on December 2, 2011 at 1:07 am

    For me, the part of this last chapter that resonated the most with me was the end about sociopaths. My mother was a sociopath…and I am very much an empath. A sociopath in any position of power is dangerous, but very much so as a parent.

    • Susan Garvin on December 5, 2011 at 2:31 pm

      Erin that part resonated with me too. Not that I had to deal with this in a parent like you, but at work …. it explains so much about a particularly difficult person in a very powerful position. Understanding how he is playing the cards makes it easier to distance myself from the effects of what he does, And how to avoid getting trapped in a situation I cannot extricate myself from safely. And I can see how he got into the powerful position he is in, plus how he manages to stay there in spite of the havoc he wreaks in the work place at times.

  4. Ianrowcliffe on November 20, 2011 at 11:53 am

    I certainly found the chapter fascinating, yet felt that there was a part missing related to the ‘Stephanie’ episode. Admittedly, we are told that her horse-riding skills are a bit rusty, but she has had a lot of experience with horses. And we are told that she has a confident poise and bearing. And, she managed the rabbit experience and was able to laugh it off with her sister, so at that point, things seem to be in order.

    So what made her act like a novice all of a sudden? What reduced her to the state that she couldn’t get back on a horse? Was her mind some other place? Had something else upset her? What had changed? I hope Linda will be able to supply the missing link, for clearly Stephanie came to her looking for an answer to that question.

    • Ian Rowcliffe on November 24, 2011 at 3:09 pm

      I was thinking to myself: could this be an example of affect contagion, where the rabbit incident and Stephanie’s sister’s comment had set in mind the progression of scary ideas in the science fiction film. And so Stephanie’s thoughts changed the state of Charger and all the other horses, making them impatient to get home and back to safety, culminating in Charger freaking completely as the surprise meeting with the deer upped the scenario enormously. If this were the case, the returning shock impulses may have been so strong that Stephanie felt she couldn’t get back on a horse afterwards.

      Speculation … but I find myself looking for an antidote to the thought:

      The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. Franklin D. Roosevelt.


      “Every time you meet a situation you think at the time it is an impossibility and you go through the tortures of the damned, once you have met it and lived through it, you find that forever after you are freer than you were before.”

      Leonor Roosevelt

      And so I have a husband and wife answer like the partnership we experience with our horses.

      Anyway, it should be interesting for Linda to expand on this….

      • Ian Rowcliffe on December 4, 2011 at 10:44 am

        Yes, Linda’s interpretation in the Conversation did make sense of Stephanie’s reaction, showing how it drew on her body’s wisdom. Moreover, how often each day do we consciously decide that it makes sense to ‘withdrawn to fight for another day’. Life is precious and working within the ‘good feel’ paradigm most certainly improves the quality of life for all parties.

  5. Ian Rowcliffe on November 18, 2011 at 11:06 am

    Just read the opening paragraphs: it is funny and light-hearted. Just need to tend to my horses, before getting back to reading more. Can’t wait!